OK, so I'm not supposed to be writing this on this blog, but I'm trying to be straight with you.
I have lots of solutions.
I have lots of struggles.
For every solution, I've got at least one struggle.
For every good mood, I've got at least one, ahem, bad one!
For every success, I've got at least one, ahem, thing that my nearest and dearest might call a partial success. Or a failure.
It's how I learn. It's how I grow.
And I'm proud of it.
For example, I de-bit my nails. For three years, I was nail-biting free, thanks to EFT. Now I suddenly realized that biting my nails is a whole lot quicker than cutting them, and I don't so much care what 'people' (if they exist) think of me, seeing my bitten nails. Perhaps I'm rationalizing and thus ignoring some stress in my life. But the point I'm making is that I'm back to biting. And that's OK with me.
Win some, lose some, is one way of seeing it. For me, I've gained in the process, it's not my next goal (gaol?) and I'm just being honest about it.
Because honesty is what I'm trying to work towards. Honesty and happiness. Peace. Kindness. Love.
Struggles and solutions. That's my current state. I currently have lots of solutions, and plenty of remaining struggles. And I'm proud of all of them.
Dealing with Pain with EFT
I read an interesting thought recently, from Milton Erikson. He wrote that pain is one third the memory of what happened, one third the current pain, and one third the fear of what might happen in the future.
I've found that by addressing the person's expectations of what 'might happen' and what "happened" their pain is brought down to more manageable levels very fast. I always ask for details about the accident, and as to the future, I try to give them some sort of safe details about what they can expect.
Even if they disagree with me, their fears are brought down to more manageable levels as they probe into real possibilities instead of exagerated ones. And as the fears drop, the pain (or the painful aspect of the pain) drops with it.
Sometimes, one needs to talk about the human error factor that was involved, and what solutions would be needed to prevent the problem from happening again.
Mildred Thill on the Emofree forums says that for some people, especially guys, she prefers to do EFT directly on the actual pain feeling involved. Then as the pain lessens or moves, she would do EFT on the new pain type or position. To read more, check out http://eftcommunity.emofree.com/forums/t/4201.aspx
Other people describe how they use NLP techniques to ask for a 'character description' to the pain. They use guessing techniques, in which the person with the pain just says the first answer they think of.
For example they ask "Pain doesn't have a color - but if this pain DID have a color, what might might it be?" "how big is the pain - bigger than your hand, or smaller?" "If the pain could talk, what might it say?" "Is the pain moving or still?"
Then they do EFT with the descriptions that have been used.
I've found that by addressing the person's expectations of what 'might happen' and what "happened" their pain is brought down to more manageable levels very fast. I always ask for details about the accident, and as to the future, I try to give them some sort of safe details about what they can expect.
Even if they disagree with me, their fears are brought down to more manageable levels as they probe into real possibilities instead of exagerated ones. And as the fears drop, the pain (or the painful aspect of the pain) drops with it.
Sometimes, one needs to talk about the human error factor that was involved, and what solutions would be needed to prevent the problem from happening again.
Mildred Thill on the Emofree forums says that for some people, especially guys, she prefers to do EFT directly on the actual pain feeling involved. Then as the pain lessens or moves, she would do EFT on the new pain type or position. To read more, check out http://eftcommunity.emofree.com/forums/t/4201.aspx
Other people describe how they use NLP techniques to ask for a 'character description' to the pain. They use guessing techniques, in which the person with the pain just says the first answer they think of.
For example they ask "Pain doesn't have a color - but if this pain DID have a color, what might might it be?" "how big is the pain - bigger than your hand, or smaller?" "If the pain could talk, what might it say?" "Is the pain moving or still?"
Then they do EFT with the descriptions that have been used.
Using "I choose"
When we think about what is happening, we don't always notice the choices that are taking place. For example we may think "I am sitting near my computer". But we could rephrase that to include the idea of choice: "I am choosing to sit near my computer".
As I've mentioned in the last few blog posts, it can be fascinating to see just how many times we are making choices when it seems like we were just doing something.
Similarly, other people are choosing certain behaviors too. Now why do I care to tell you this? Not so that you can hurt them back when they choose unpleasant choices. But rather to let you see that they are people with free will, and that they are making choices. When people do things, they are (nearly always) choosing to do it.
This is liberating because so many people think that others are "just born mean" or "can't help hurting". As a result, they see situations as desperate and unresolvable. They feel wretched, and they too make retaliatory choices that they are not entirely happy with, eg to take revenge, to get divorced, to be depressed. Hey don't slam me yet for that last one! It's also a choice, but I need to explain something further before you might believe me!!!
You see, let's say I meet a neighbor as I'm walking in the street, and she basically ignores me. I would feel bad. LOA experts might say I am attracting that behavior. I can shrug and say "I don't care". None of these options make me feel better nor give me an easy plan of action.
So let me try it this way for a second. I label "she is ignoring me". I then rephrase "she is choosing to ignore me". Suddenly, I can give credence to my feeling that she is hurting my feelings, while before, I had a certain amount of self-doubt as to whether she just didn't really notice me, and I was making a big deal out of nothing. No, I'll assume for a minute that she IS ignoring me. In fact, I'll assume that she is CHOOSING to ignore me. It is entirely possible. In fact, I can even go two steps further and say "She is choosing to ignore me, and that makes me feel bad" and "she is choosing to ignore me and she is (possibly subconsciously) choosing to act towards me in a way that many people would consider disrespectful".
When I look at this friend now, I have a whole new understanding. I mean why on earth would someone choose to make someone feel bad in this way?
Perhaps she is very goal-orientated and hasn't the least idea of how relationships can benefit everyone, including herself. Perhaps she feels she needs to assert herself by acting disrespectfully towards others. Perhaps she is trying to snub me for something I did wrong in the past. Perhaps she has an imaginary hierarchy of people who are VIPs and she doesn't consider me anywhere near the top. Perhaps she thinks I am older than her, so I couldn't be desirous of any positive relationship with her. Perhaps her life is running according to plan and she has everything she wants, and it's too scary for her to deal with people who look, perhaps, like they haven't yet got much of what they want.
Perhaps perhaps, there are a million possibilities, and maybe many of them are true, but one thing is for sure. When I see that someone is making a choice to act disrespectfully towards me, I feel safe to explore the reasons for their choice. I see it is more to do with them and their view of the world, than it is about me. Her choice to act disrespectful may be specific to me, but as I explore, I see how she hardly knows me, and is just using me as the receiving end of her feelings and stuck thought patterns. I don't think anymore that she judged me fairly and found that I fail. And maybe, just maybe, all the above ideas were more my insecurities and belief systems than anything else.
So when I say that she is choosing to be disrespectful, she is probably unconscious of this choice. But at some level, she could really begin take responsibility for some of her flawed thinking patterns, which would help her to act nicer.
People are capable of changing. They can challenge their thought patterns and realign them with reality. As a result, they will act nicer and feel happier.
I read today that when we have an experience that we don't like, we sort of say NO! in our thinking. As in "NO, I can't bear that". In such a case, our thinking is out of line with reality and we feel suffering. Saying NO to reality is often the cause of the pain we feel.
Long ago, I thought of an example of pushing a heavy object with a lot of force. Why don't we experience this as painful? Because we chose to do it, so we accept it. Yet, if that same heavy object would fall towards us with exactly the same force, we would feel pain. I think it's because we didn't choose it or expect it. Some of us like to think that we are in charge, and will only "allow" the things that we choose. If things happen contrary to our expectations and plans, we don't "allow" them - and yet they happen, so we feel pain! It's the pain of saying "NO" to reality.
In a similar way, if a person acts disrespectfully to me, and I don't "allow" this, then I will feel pain. But as soon as I can understand that she is she, with her own life history, journey, understandings, current thought patterns - and potential for change, my pain drops to zero.
And I can even go one step further, since I'm a believing Jew. I know that she, like everyone else, is here in this world with a possibility of having a great effect here in creating Kiddush Shem Shamayim (Awareness of G-d's greatness and how He's involved in the world). In order to create more than already exists, (I think that) one has to challenge existing stuck thought patterns, and let go of our NOs. If that's her potential, it's probably somewhere in her aspirations too, and I guess we're not so different after all.
Not only that, but perhaps I can become aware that she is likely already trying to break out of stuck thought patterns and emotions, in her own way, already. In fact, she probably has what to teach me too. As friends we can do so much more than as individuals.
I remember that a friend of mine once said: "but I don't like to be treated disrespectfully" - I wonder if it's because we really want everyone else to be perfect and nice, so that we can lean on them. Ahem.
So when my neighbor ignores me in the street, I first say "she is choosing to treat me disrespectfully". I then feel my own power coming rushing back into my body. I realize that in some sense, she still has inner improvements to make, and I can feel pity for that. And, a moment later, I can gradually help myself consider that she possibly does not mean to offend the real me and might even welcome a better relationship.
So I find I can (choose to) smile or even grin at her, and say "Hey, how are you doing today?" And who knows, I may even help build a new relationship today.
As I've mentioned in the last few blog posts, it can be fascinating to see just how many times we are making choices when it seems like we were just doing something.
Similarly, other people are choosing certain behaviors too. Now why do I care to tell you this? Not so that you can hurt them back when they choose unpleasant choices. But rather to let you see that they are people with free will, and that they are making choices. When people do things, they are (nearly always) choosing to do it.
This is liberating because so many people think that others are "just born mean" or "can't help hurting". As a result, they see situations as desperate and unresolvable. They feel wretched, and they too make retaliatory choices that they are not entirely happy with, eg to take revenge, to get divorced, to be depressed. Hey don't slam me yet for that last one! It's also a choice, but I need to explain something further before you might believe me!!!
You see, let's say I meet a neighbor as I'm walking in the street, and she basically ignores me. I would feel bad. LOA experts might say I am attracting that behavior. I can shrug and say "I don't care". None of these options make me feel better nor give me an easy plan of action.
So let me try it this way for a second. I label "she is ignoring me". I then rephrase "she is choosing to ignore me". Suddenly, I can give credence to my feeling that she is hurting my feelings, while before, I had a certain amount of self-doubt as to whether she just didn't really notice me, and I was making a big deal out of nothing. No, I'll assume for a minute that she IS ignoring me. In fact, I'll assume that she is CHOOSING to ignore me. It is entirely possible. In fact, I can even go two steps further and say "She is choosing to ignore me, and that makes me feel bad" and "she is choosing to ignore me and she is (possibly subconsciously) choosing to act towards me in a way that many people would consider disrespectful".
When I look at this friend now, I have a whole new understanding. I mean why on earth would someone choose to make someone feel bad in this way?
Perhaps she is very goal-orientated and hasn't the least idea of how relationships can benefit everyone, including herself. Perhaps she feels she needs to assert herself by acting disrespectfully towards others. Perhaps she is trying to snub me for something I did wrong in the past. Perhaps she has an imaginary hierarchy of people who are VIPs and she doesn't consider me anywhere near the top. Perhaps she thinks I am older than her, so I couldn't be desirous of any positive relationship with her. Perhaps her life is running according to plan and she has everything she wants, and it's too scary for her to deal with people who look, perhaps, like they haven't yet got much of what they want.
Perhaps perhaps, there are a million possibilities, and maybe many of them are true, but one thing is for sure. When I see that someone is making a choice to act disrespectfully towards me, I feel safe to explore the reasons for their choice. I see it is more to do with them and their view of the world, than it is about me. Her choice to act disrespectful may be specific to me, but as I explore, I see how she hardly knows me, and is just using me as the receiving end of her feelings and stuck thought patterns. I don't think anymore that she judged me fairly and found that I fail. And maybe, just maybe, all the above ideas were more my insecurities and belief systems than anything else.
So when I say that she is choosing to be disrespectful, she is probably unconscious of this choice. But at some level, she could really begin take responsibility for some of her flawed thinking patterns, which would help her to act nicer.
People are capable of changing. They can challenge their thought patterns and realign them with reality. As a result, they will act nicer and feel happier.
I read today that when we have an experience that we don't like, we sort of say NO! in our thinking. As in "NO, I can't bear that". In such a case, our thinking is out of line with reality and we feel suffering. Saying NO to reality is often the cause of the pain we feel.
Long ago, I thought of an example of pushing a heavy object with a lot of force. Why don't we experience this as painful? Because we chose to do it, so we accept it. Yet, if that same heavy object would fall towards us with exactly the same force, we would feel pain. I think it's because we didn't choose it or expect it. Some of us like to think that we are in charge, and will only "allow" the things that we choose. If things happen contrary to our expectations and plans, we don't "allow" them - and yet they happen, so we feel pain! It's the pain of saying "NO" to reality.
In a similar way, if a person acts disrespectfully to me, and I don't "allow" this, then I will feel pain. But as soon as I can understand that she is she, with her own life history, journey, understandings, current thought patterns - and potential for change, my pain drops to zero.
And I can even go one step further, since I'm a believing Jew. I know that she, like everyone else, is here in this world with a possibility of having a great effect here in creating Kiddush Shem Shamayim (Awareness of G-d's greatness and how He's involved in the world). In order to create more than already exists, (I think that) one has to challenge existing stuck thought patterns, and let go of our NOs. If that's her potential, it's probably somewhere in her aspirations too, and I guess we're not so different after all.
Not only that, but perhaps I can become aware that she is likely already trying to break out of stuck thought patterns and emotions, in her own way, already. In fact, she probably has what to teach me too. As friends we can do so much more than as individuals.
I remember that a friend of mine once said: "but I don't like to be treated disrespectfully" - I wonder if it's because we really want everyone else to be perfect and nice, so that we can lean on them. Ahem.
So when my neighbor ignores me in the street, I first say "she is choosing to treat me disrespectfully". I then feel my own power coming rushing back into my body. I realize that in some sense, she still has inner improvements to make, and I can feel pity for that. And, a moment later, I can gradually help myself consider that she possibly does not mean to offend the real me and might even welcome a better relationship.
So I find I can (choose to) smile or even grin at her, and say "Hey, how are you doing today?" And who knows, I may even help build a new relationship today.
Turn it around.
I don't know much about Byron Katie and her Work, but I have read her 4 questions, and her idea about using a turnaround.
Using MOs also invites turnarounds. Today, I was lying down, and I needed to do loads of stuff.
So I said to myself:
"I must get up, but I don't want to" I thought that this might help me process what was going on in me, but to no avail. So then a lightbulb went off in my brain, and I thought to try to Turn it Around.
So I said:
"I want to get up, but I'm not allowed to". I tasted that statement. And do you know what? It was more accurate than the first statement. Because I did want to get up. And I also had a little inner child that perhaps needed nurturing. And when I did nurture her (she was five and had been treated very badly by her teacher, and was still miserable today), I found that I actually was able to get up.
What do you say?
Using MOs also invites turnarounds. Today, I was lying down, and I needed to do loads of stuff.
So I said to myself:
"I must get up, but I don't want to" I thought that this might help me process what was going on in me, but to no avail. So then a lightbulb went off in my brain, and I thought to try to Turn it Around.
So I said:
"I want to get up, but I'm not allowed to". I tasted that statement. And do you know what? It was more accurate than the first statement. Because I did want to get up. And I also had a little inner child that perhaps needed nurturing. And when I did nurture her (she was five and had been treated very badly by her teacher, and was still miserable today), I found that I actually was able to get up.
What do you say?
hi all
Note: Please read until the WARNING in the middle of this post before applying any ideas on this blog.
I don't know what to say, so others might tell me not to write anything. But nobody is saying that aloud right now, so I'm going to do what I want and just type, and see what comes out.
You see, sometimes one doesn't know what to write because one has nothing at all to share (I guess). But other times, like now, for me, it's because it's all locked up in my brain and I don't know how to find the unravelling thread to access it. And it could be that there are many unravelling threads, so the main thing is to TRY to unravel. Or to TRY to express. So that's what I'm doing here, thanks for being so patient with me.
Yesterday I wrote all these interesting things about MOs. And although I don't think I did the most amazing job explaining them, and how they are valuable I'd like to continue along the same theme today. I wonder whether my writing-reluctance comes from feeling sad that I didn't express it all well enough yesterday. So I do hope you'll all forgive me for trying to express things, but possibly leaving you unclear. I hate unclarity. But maybe sometimes it's better to be unclear and know it, than to just leave everything inside in a large, unravelled knot.
The thing about MOs is that they represent an entirely new appoach in energy work. The standard EFT that I've been using is described always in terms of feelings and emotions and pain. Hopes and dreams, wishes and distress.
With these MOs, I'm extending you an invitation to explore POWER issues! Yes, that's right! Power, as in "I can" "I must" "I choose to" and "I want to". Power, as in, why aren't I doing what I planned to? What I could do?
With the energy work I've previously been doing, these power aspects have not been given enough clarity and strength. They're sort of used as the Setup endings, and you pick whichever feels right to you.
Now, I'd like to suggest that we explore how we are treating these ideas and where we feel blocked because of them. However, before we start exploring, it's worth knowing that the MOs can't work unless you also have a subject - the person involved, and an action - the verb involved. So thinking about "can versus should" can be quite meaningless. Yet focusing on "I can set the table" versus "I should set the table" is much more effective.
I'll remind you of the four categories that Steve Andreas described: Necessity, desire, choice and ability.
As you go through your day, or while sitting near your computer say aloud all the four options, especially at times when you feel resistance to something you want to do.
And then, I guess, tap while you're saying it, or focus in deeply. I personally haven't tapped while I said it, because I just mentally focus in on it, and allow any energetic releases to happen. But if you don't know how to do this, or can't, then tap a round for each statement.
The purpose is to discover our hidden beliefs about our abilities and what we feel we ought to do, etc. Sometimes, just discovering our hidden beliefs is enough to disarm them. Other times, further work is needed.
I particularly favor Slow EFT, invented by Silvia Hartmann, I believe, in which you tap on each point until you feel some sort of release happening at that point. Now different people are different, and some people Feel releases, others imagine Seeing them, and others just Know that they have had them, while still others Sense that they've had them.
Some people are very sensitive to releases and can tell when energy is moving, while other people are not sensitive at all to energy fields, and might never understand what releases are. Still other people may have loads of issues that are blocking them from being sensitive to energy release, but as these are resolved, they become very aware of them.
Some people don't experience energy releases, because they're not able to release much energy. There could be many reasons for this. It could be that they may be unconsciously holding their current thought patterns very tightly. It can be very hard for such people to use energy methods to change their thought patterns. This can be because of birth trauma, childhood trauma, allergies, addictions, medication side effects, or other reasons. Not being able to use energy methods is a fact of life for some people, for myriads of possible reasons, and should be respected. It is sometimes changeable. There is also personal choice. Some people, for personal or religious reasons, do not use energy methods. Obviously, this is a matter of personal choice.
For people who don't know when energy is being released, try tapping on each point about 40 times, while breathing gently. At the end of each round, do a slow head roll, wriggle your fingers and toes, take a deep breath and stretch out your arms. Say "peace". Also, don't do many rounds without taking a break.
To help increase the awareness of the sensation of energy release, try to be quite relaxed as you tap. Allow energy to be released in whichever form it needs to be released in. So for some it may be through a change in breathing patterns, some people feel a need to stretch, yawn or sigh. Some releases cause people to burp, others to roll one's head or breathe out noisily, or wiggle their toes. I know of a few cases when people felt inclined to scream, and once when someone vomited (that was me, but it was someone else's problem!). And lots of people laugh or giggle, or suddenly get very distracted and bored.
Sometimes releases are immediate, other times they happen a little while later. It's good to gradually recognize what releases feel like because it can help you make energy work much faster and more targeted, or understand when there is resistance in the system and be more able to explore that resistance. It's a personalized results system that doesn't lie!
You don't have to let the energy release if you choose not to. Yet, if one 'goes with the flow' and allows these body sensations to come to fruition, one often feels a tremendous sense of relief in the body, and also in the issue one was working on.
To know how you feel about something, I advise you to say the statement aloud, or in your brain, as if you really mean it. Then notice what thoughts arise. eg: "What nonsense", or "That's true", or "that's what my parents always said, but can I challenge it?" This is what I mean by 'tasting' the sentence. Immerse yourself in it, for a moment, to see what it means to you.
I personally do not tap while 'tasting' these statements, I just think about them whilst checking in my body if there is any release waiting to take place, and then I let it go. It is usually in the form of stretching, long outer breaths. And the issue feels resolved and I feel empowered as a result - or at least I gain a new perspective on what I was thinking about. Some people may not believe this.
If you can explore the MOs and make thought-pattern changes without using any form of energy work, or with other energy methods, I'd be very interested to learn how to do it. Please leave a comment!
As I mentioned in a previous post, it is also very interesting to mix together two or more MOs in a sentence, and see how you react to that. It's also good to notice interactions between different people. Try out these sentences by tasting how they feel:
I have a few important points to make here:
1) it is important to be well hydrated - but not over hydrated when doing any type of brain or energy work.
2) Regularly taking Omega 3 supplements is also very useful for any type of thinking, dealing with thought patterns, or calming work. If you're Jewish, check if your brand is Kosher.
3) WARNING: Energy releases can sometimes help you uncover an unrelated very deep issue, that you've been in denial about. The issue may be very important, and accessing it can make you DEPRESSED, UNMOTIVATED, SCARED, SHIVERY, etc. You may not be aware of what is is that is causing you to feel this way.
As I said in the disclaimer below, I can't take responsibility for your use of my ideas. I don't know your issues, I don't know what you may have repressed, and I'm not often available to help you sort it out. I believe that if you keep tapping you will find resolution, but this may take MANY MONTHS OF TAPPING - if you're doing it on your own! There are lots of ways to tap and release which are faster, more meaningful, more guided, more gentle, and more direct - yet you don't necessarily have the experience to know these. So doing it alone might set you up for a rough time.
In the meantime, if you get depressed, you'll need support and help, physically and emotionally! So if you do what I've suggested in this posting, and explore all these issues, please remember that everyone needs lots of guidance. We bang into corners often as we try to sort out our own issues. I do think that there are always solutions, but they are not always so easy to find, especially for the person who is suffering. Many of us have a tendency to be VERY HARD on ourselves, and thus we tend to deal with our issues in a very ROUGH and painful way, unless a loving practitioner helps us do otherwise.
The reason I have posted the above about MOs and energy releases is because I think that it is very liberating to discover our inconsistencies. For example, it's nice to know that we were believing that "I must - therefore I don't want to". I think it is empowering.
But although for me, at my stage of development, this is empowering, yet for you, it may be dispowering, so please remember to only do these things if you will also take responsibility for the consequences. Because they might be really bad. I'm not saying this only to protect myself legally, but because I care about you.
Energy work is powerful WHETHER YOU BELIEVE IT OR NOT, and WHETHER YOU FEEL ENERGETIC RELEASES OR NOT. Opening yourself up to self-introspection is best done with the support of a paid practitioner or at least a guided support group.
I don't know what to say, so others might tell me not to write anything. But nobody is saying that aloud right now, so I'm going to do what I want and just type, and see what comes out.
You see, sometimes one doesn't know what to write because one has nothing at all to share (I guess). But other times, like now, for me, it's because it's all locked up in my brain and I don't know how to find the unravelling thread to access it. And it could be that there are many unravelling threads, so the main thing is to TRY to unravel. Or to TRY to express. So that's what I'm doing here, thanks for being so patient with me.
Yesterday I wrote all these interesting things about MOs. And although I don't think I did the most amazing job explaining them, and how they are valuable I'd like to continue along the same theme today. I wonder whether my writing-reluctance comes from feeling sad that I didn't express it all well enough yesterday. So I do hope you'll all forgive me for trying to express things, but possibly leaving you unclear. I hate unclarity. But maybe sometimes it's better to be unclear and know it, than to just leave everything inside in a large, unravelled knot.
The thing about MOs is that they represent an entirely new appoach in energy work. The standard EFT that I've been using is described always in terms of feelings and emotions and pain. Hopes and dreams, wishes and distress.
With these MOs, I'm extending you an invitation to explore POWER issues! Yes, that's right! Power, as in "I can" "I must" "I choose to" and "I want to". Power, as in, why aren't I doing what I planned to? What I could do?
With the energy work I've previously been doing, these power aspects have not been given enough clarity and strength. They're sort of used as the Setup endings, and you pick whichever feels right to you.
Now, I'd like to suggest that we explore how we are treating these ideas and where we feel blocked because of them. However, before we start exploring, it's worth knowing that the MOs can't work unless you also have a subject - the person involved, and an action - the verb involved. So thinking about "can versus should" can be quite meaningless. Yet focusing on "I can set the table" versus "I should set the table" is much more effective.
I'll remind you of the four categories that Steve Andreas described: Necessity, desire, choice and ability.
As you go through your day, or while sitting near your computer say aloud all the four options, especially at times when you feel resistance to something you want to do.
And then, I guess, tap while you're saying it, or focus in deeply. I personally haven't tapped while I said it, because I just mentally focus in on it, and allow any energetic releases to happen. But if you don't know how to do this, or can't, then tap a round for each statement.
The purpose is to discover our hidden beliefs about our abilities and what we feel we ought to do, etc. Sometimes, just discovering our hidden beliefs is enough to disarm them. Other times, further work is needed.
I particularly favor Slow EFT, invented by Silvia Hartmann, I believe, in which you tap on each point until you feel some sort of release happening at that point. Now different people are different, and some people Feel releases, others imagine Seeing them, and others just Know that they have had them, while still others Sense that they've had them.
Some people are very sensitive to releases and can tell when energy is moving, while other people are not sensitive at all to energy fields, and might never understand what releases are. Still other people may have loads of issues that are blocking them from being sensitive to energy release, but as these are resolved, they become very aware of them.
Some people don't experience energy releases, because they're not able to release much energy. There could be many reasons for this. It could be that they may be unconsciously holding their current thought patterns very tightly. It can be very hard for such people to use energy methods to change their thought patterns. This can be because of birth trauma, childhood trauma, allergies, addictions, medication side effects, or other reasons. Not being able to use energy methods is a fact of life for some people, for myriads of possible reasons, and should be respected. It is sometimes changeable. There is also personal choice. Some people, for personal or religious reasons, do not use energy methods. Obviously, this is a matter of personal choice.
For people who don't know when energy is being released, try tapping on each point about 40 times, while breathing gently. At the end of each round, do a slow head roll, wriggle your fingers and toes, take a deep breath and stretch out your arms. Say "peace". Also, don't do many rounds without taking a break.
To help increase the awareness of the sensation of energy release, try to be quite relaxed as you tap. Allow energy to be released in whichever form it needs to be released in. So for some it may be through a change in breathing patterns, some people feel a need to stretch, yawn or sigh. Some releases cause people to burp, others to roll one's head or breathe out noisily, or wiggle their toes. I know of a few cases when people felt inclined to scream, and once when someone vomited (that was me, but it was someone else's problem!). And lots of people laugh or giggle, or suddenly get very distracted and bored.
Sometimes releases are immediate, other times they happen a little while later. It's good to gradually recognize what releases feel like because it can help you make energy work much faster and more targeted, or understand when there is resistance in the system and be more able to explore that resistance. It's a personalized results system that doesn't lie!
You don't have to let the energy release if you choose not to. Yet, if one 'goes with the flow' and allows these body sensations to come to fruition, one often feels a tremendous sense of relief in the body, and also in the issue one was working on.
To know how you feel about something, I advise you to say the statement aloud, or in your brain, as if you really mean it. Then notice what thoughts arise. eg: "What nonsense", or "That's true", or "that's what my parents always said, but can I challenge it?" This is what I mean by 'tasting' the sentence. Immerse yourself in it, for a moment, to see what it means to you.
I personally do not tap while 'tasting' these statements, I just think about them whilst checking in my body if there is any release waiting to take place, and then I let it go. It is usually in the form of stretching, long outer breaths. And the issue feels resolved and I feel empowered as a result - or at least I gain a new perspective on what I was thinking about. Some people may not believe this.
If you can explore the MOs and make thought-pattern changes without using any form of energy work, or with other energy methods, I'd be very interested to learn how to do it. Please leave a comment!
As I mentioned in a previous post, it is also very interesting to mix together two or more MOs in a sentence, and see how you react to that. It's also good to notice interactions between different people. Try out these sentences by tasting how they feel:
- "I would like to be able to choose how to behave when someone says something that I do not like to hear",
- "he has to (choose to) do exactly what I say (need)"
- "I cannot choose how he chooses to talk to me"
- "I cannot yet choose how I speak to myself - I'm stuck to copying how others speak to me - but I would like to be able to choose to speak to myself gently".
I have a few important points to make here:
1) it is important to be well hydrated - but not over hydrated when doing any type of brain or energy work.
2) Regularly taking Omega 3 supplements is also very useful for any type of thinking, dealing with thought patterns, or calming work. If you're Jewish, check if your brand is Kosher.
3) WARNING: Energy releases can sometimes help you uncover an unrelated very deep issue, that you've been in denial about. The issue may be very important, and accessing it can make you DEPRESSED, UNMOTIVATED, SCARED, SHIVERY, etc. You may not be aware of what is is that is causing you to feel this way.
As I said in the disclaimer below, I can't take responsibility for your use of my ideas. I don't know your issues, I don't know what you may have repressed, and I'm not often available to help you sort it out. I believe that if you keep tapping you will find resolution, but this may take MANY MONTHS OF TAPPING - if you're doing it on your own! There are lots of ways to tap and release which are faster, more meaningful, more guided, more gentle, and more direct - yet you don't necessarily have the experience to know these. So doing it alone might set you up for a rough time.
In the meantime, if you get depressed, you'll need support and help, physically and emotionally! So if you do what I've suggested in this posting, and explore all these issues, please remember that everyone needs lots of guidance. We bang into corners often as we try to sort out our own issues. I do think that there are always solutions, but they are not always so easy to find, especially for the person who is suffering. Many of us have a tendency to be VERY HARD on ourselves, and thus we tend to deal with our issues in a very ROUGH and painful way, unless a loving practitioner helps us do otherwise.
The reason I have posted the above about MOs and energy releases is because I think that it is very liberating to discover our inconsistencies. For example, it's nice to know that we were believing that "I must - therefore I don't want to". I think it is empowering.
But although for me, at my stage of development, this is empowering, yet for you, it may be dispowering, so please remember to only do these things if you will also take responsibility for the consequences. Because they might be really bad. I'm not saying this only to protect myself legally, but because I care about you.
Energy work is powerful WHETHER YOU BELIEVE IT OR NOT, and WHETHER YOU FEEL ENERGETIC RELEASES OR NOT. Opening yourself up to self-introspection is best done with the support of a paid practitioner or at least a guided support group.
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