I read an interesting thought recently, from Milton Erikson. He wrote that pain is one third the memory of what happened, one third the current pain, and one third the fear of what might happen in the future.
I've found that by addressing the person's expectations of what 'might happen' and what "happened" their pain is brought down to more manageable levels very fast. I always ask for details about the accident, and as to the future, I try to give them some sort of safe details about what they can expect.
Even if they disagree with me, their fears are brought down to more manageable levels as they probe into real possibilities instead of exagerated ones. And as the fears drop, the pain (or the painful aspect of the pain) drops with it.
Sometimes, one needs to talk about the human error factor that was involved, and what solutions would be needed to prevent the problem from happening again.
Mildred Thill on the Emofree forums says that for some people, especially guys, she prefers to do EFT directly on the actual pain feeling involved. Then as the pain lessens or moves, she would do EFT on the new pain type or position. To read more, check out http://eftcommunity.emofree.com/forums/t/4201.aspx
Other people describe how they use NLP techniques to ask for a 'character description' to the pain. They use guessing techniques, in which the person with the pain just says the first answer they think of.
For example they ask "Pain doesn't have a color - but if this pain DID have a color, what might might it be?" "how big is the pain - bigger than your hand, or smaller?" "If the pain could talk, what might it say?" "Is the pain moving or still?"
Then they do EFT with the descriptions that have been used.
No comments:
Post a Comment